When talking about the friends I "regularly" (not that it's at all regular, but much more so than others) do things with, Doug and I are the youngest of them all. I am one of the 3 who are actually graduated from college. I am one of the 3 couples that are actually married. And Doug and I are the only ones with a kid.
It's hard to be that person and couple, you know.
Sure, I don't have school, and I "just" run an etsy shop, so I don't really work (I'm being 100% sarcastic here because it takes plenty of freakin' time to do) and all I do is play around with Emmett all day.
It's not that simple. And it's not that fun. At least not all the time.
So it's super frustrating that, ever since having Emmett, we've kind of been shut out. Actually, it's more like when I was pregnant and never wanted to leave the house because every time I did I had to puke from morning sickness (that was never in the morning, I might add). I don't think it's necessarily on purpose, but it has happened nonetheless. We're invited to much fewer things (except for the things that we don't have a prayer of going to [movie round up an hour before it starts? Or better yet, midnight movies anyone? Right, remember how we have a baby? Not happening.], and it sucks. It hurts. Seeing these activities planned out on twitter, or pictures of the event actually occurring is the worst. Better yet when you're just "forgotten."
Am I to gather I am now invisible then? Awesome.
The worst part, in all honesty, isn't even just being forgotten and left out. It's in the fact that all I do is sit at home every day since I rarely have the car and hang out with a baby. I have little interaction with other adults, outside of Doug and his mom. Sure, I can hop on facebook or twitter and see what's going on, but that's not the same. Human interaction pretty much eludes me all the time. And while I enjoy my solitude rather frequently, I enjoy being with other people and friends too.
Sometimes I wish I wasn't as "far ahead" as everyone else. Sometimes I wish I hadn't finished college in less than 4 years, hadn't gotten married less than 2 months after Doug got home and definitely didn't have a child yet (please don't even go to the "you must not love Emmett" place, either. I love him plenty.)
Conclusion? I need to get out of Utah and find friends who are in the same stage of life as I am. Because being here, capitol of all single Mormons, is not doing good things for me.
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